Embracing Family: A Heartfelt Perspective on Adoption
As we are embracing family this November, we are reminded that it’s National Adoption Month—a time dedicated to celebrating the profound impact of adoption. To shine a spotlight on this meaningful occasion, our DEI committee had a heart-to-heart interview with one of our cherished Loyal Source team members. Join us as we delve into his remarkable journey and personal insights into the world of adoption. Thank you to Eric, Inventory Specialist with Loyal Source, for taking the time to give this informative interview!
How did you know you wanted to become a parent? What made you choose adoption?
Already being a parent and being close to my relative whose grandchild T was, it was a “no-brainer”. My cousin needed help, and that’s what families do—go to whatever extent to be there for someone when they are in need.
Do you feel adoption was a calling? Was there something or someone in your life that influenced your decision to adopt?
I have a relative, a cousin, that I am especially close with because we grew up together. The child was/is her grandchild. However, the caveat to her not being able to adopt T herself was that her husband had a felony on his record from decades past. So, it was a “no-brainer” for me to adopt this little fellow. Although I was/am single, there were some issues that the folks who come around to check on the environment the child will grow up in would have. Although the powers that be had initial concerns, once they saw the atmosphere I created for my son, I allayed any feelings of doubt they may have had.
What have been some of the most difficult questions to answer as an adoptive parent?
He would ask, Why didn’t his real mom and dad want him? Did he do something bad? Do they hate him? Where are my real mom and dad?
What are some of the unique issues you feel like you have experienced with adoption that you think another prospective adoptive parent should know?
Be cognizant of the processes regarding the adoption process. It is not a quick process. From the time I got T at 5 months until the time the adoption was finalized, it was a little over two years. Be prepared to have every facet of your life questioned, e.g., place of employment, friends you may have, activities you may enjoy, the Guardian Ad Litem, the folks who check on you and the child’s progress, will visit you as expected and unexpectedly.
What advice would you give to a prospective/current adoptive parent?
If adoption is an option, please do NOT hesitate and don’t do it simply for the money, because it will show in how the child is treated and whether or not the child will be embraced within the family dynamic. In addition to telling the child they are wanted, needed, cherished, and most of all, loved, it MUST be shown, especially if the child has come from a broken home. Additionally, that love must be real, because they will feel if it is or isn’t.
What has been your most rewarding experience as an adoptive parent?
Seeing the joy of a child as they begin to understand that no matter what has happened in their life, they are loved!
In conclusion, as National Adoption Month draws to a close, we hope this conversation has served as a source of inspiration and a reminder of the transformative power of adoption. It’s a reminder that love knows no bounds and that every family’s story is unique and beautiful in its own way. And, we encourage everyone to continue embracing family this month and all year long.
We extend our heartfelt gratitude to Eric for sharing his profound experience and to all those who have joined us in celebrating this special month. Let’s continue to support, uplift, and advocate for the countless children and families whose lives have been touched by adoption.
To learn more about National Adoption Month and for resources regarding adoption visit the website here.
